It didn't take long to see the pieces and begin to put them in place. Had I been called in for the first time, we absolutely would have reached the same place but it would have taken longer, been more expensive, and required learning some of the systems that impacted the work. What's really interesting about this one is that the boss--with whom I have a good relationship--suggested that I stop calling myself a consultant and bill my work as Coaching. He said that consultants are people from large firms who come in and present voluminous data regarding how one's company should be different, then leave without telling them how it can be done.
In his mind, Coaches help get it done. When I started out, consultants were the ones who helped get it done.
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I'm learning that terminology and perception may actually be impacting my business in the minds of some potential clients. To these other well-deserved kudos, I'd add that your lens of perception seems to be clear due to your own self respect.
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You come from a place that does not need to find fault with others to compensate for any personal misgivings. Most workplaces are rife with the drama of self contempt, projected onto others who appear more powerful or insecure, experienced or lacking, connected or isolated, etc. The ongoing "blame games" corrupt most interpersonal feedback. In my experience, the dichotomy has always been there between consultants of the "hit-n-run, submit a polished report, climb the ladder in the consulting firm" variety AND the "get-down-n-dirty, work through the implementation, submit updates as project managers" variety.
That distinction also occurs in all the helping professions between the work-on and work-with approaches. I also see it as the same distinction between pursuing ego trips and acting with compassion. My theory about the decline of informal mentors relates to increasing fear in the world. When it feels like lives are on dangerous or battlegrounds, there's no sense of having the time, luxury or safety to be a mentor. Everyone is looking out for themselves, avoiding costly mistakes, and coping with intense performance pressures.
Mentoring takes the detachment that not only comes with being an outsider to the situation, by emotionally on a more calm, inclusive and trusting wavelength. Tom Haskins April 17, at Tom, great insight on mentors. It might have been Ken Robinson in a TED video who said that the inculcation of fear of making a mistake has caused a loss of creativity because one can only be creative if one is willing to make a mistake.
If we apply this to Steve's remarks about mentoring we get to your comment about needing safety to be a mentor. If workplaces are filtering out people who are willing to take a chance i. Robyn April 17, at The discussion by experienced people is now leaning toward one of the most basic human emotions--fear--as an inhibitor to growth and relationships. By itself, that wouldn't be new or startling. But in the context of "the war for talent," it would have serious implications:. That's a great summing up! I hope you will do a follow-up blog on what can be done by businesses to break the spiral effect.
The downward spiral is a realistic assessment of the dynamics in the war for talent. Picturing the dynamics as cycles of fear, abuse, war etc capture the closed, persistent and destructive quality of how fear effects situations. Yet the spiral is not a creative or opportunistic way to connect the dots. Fear is highly contagious but many leaders have cultivated the respect trust, buy-in, follower-ship to successfully calm their people down, restore faith the systems, commit to taking risks, and envision optimistic futures.
Fear may be the default setting, but it's possible to change expectations, stories and forecasts with some creativity. I Never Realized The Truth Before "People have told me about that 'habit' but nobody ever described all the ways that it affected them.
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He's a hard-working, well-intentioned guy, not a serial killer. There is an admirable and desirable human tendency to not want to hurt other people. The truth will, in fact, set you free. I love this work.
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Good day at the office! Hi Steve, Actually, this story reveals a great benefit of access to well-rounded consultants - given, that is, the unfortunate organizational and familiar relationship dynamics that lead to the shortcomings you identify. Great story - thanks for sharing it in this context!
Hello, Robyn, That's an honest and thorough scenario that you describe: Say only what you mean.
Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love. Start examining your life and see if every single situation you're involved with is healthy for you in your mind and heart.
Am I being true to myself here? If not, find out why and then change it. Go ahead and tell the truth about yourself to everyone. Tell the whole truth. You'll probably shake things up and disrupt some people but when the 'fall out' settles you'll be saying -- "This is who I am.
This is how I intend to live my life. This is the real me! I'm not saying be any way you want. Jails are full of people who do that and don't care at all about the effect they have on others or the world. It means being responsible; holding yourself accountable for your thoughts and actions.
Change – How to Make Truthful and Authentic Life Changes Easier
We're all born with instincts about how to live. If you go away from those innate feelings you may feel bad; you'll hurt, be ashamed and even get angry.
When I look back on my life I sometimes cringe thinking about some of the things I said and did. Wishing I could change it. The bad feelings are your internal, ethical GPS letting you know that the direction you went in was unjust to someone or something or yourself. It's an opportunity because you can always change how you see it, grow and be different.
Never do it again. In life there are no mistakes. The emotion just comes up and then its up to me to honour that I feel as I do and go and feel it. I have been experimenting with honouring feelings in the moment they come up, with some findings i find interesting:. If I allow myself to go and privately feel what I feel in the moment I often gain insight and a little clarity about the situation. I also am discovering that it opens me up to acknowledging how I really feel about things rather than what I want to think I feel about things. Who encourage me through their example to Love, be Truthful and stand for things that are good and right.
I have friends who set an example of living a truthful, love based life and they inspire me to do the same. When I mention Truth above I am linking it with the assumption of having a desire to love as God loves. More information can be found at: You are commenting using your WordPress. You are commenting using your Twitter account. You are commenting using your Facebook account.
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